Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right. – Oprah Winfrey
1. Make it fun, interesting, challenging and enjoyable. For example if you want to begin a regular exercise routine, make it fun. Learn to Belly Dance or study a form of Martial Arts that interests you, or, volunteer to work on the National Park Trails, there many options beyond the gym (which is s a good choice as well).
2. Make it accessible and easy as possible. Instead of planning to be the best spouse or parent, make a resolution to listen to others and speak kindly.
3. Break it down into small parts. Make a resolution to ask your spouse or child about specific events in their life at least 4 times a week and commit to listening to their answers. Take a course in communication skills.
4. Create some form of accountability. Make an agreement with a friend to communicate on a scheduled basis and discuss your progress (I have a friend that I do that with, we speak once a week about our success with our respective goals) or do this with a professional or find an on-line program like the Stephen Covey Community (I use this also).
5. Reward yourself in a healthy way. If your goal is to lose weight, do NOT reward yourself with some high fat, sugary food. Reward yourself instead with new clothes or an exercise training or class you have always wanted to do like skiing or a guided nature trip into the wilderness. Everyone is different, find one that is affordable and truly rewarding